Love, Celibacy and Celebrities
by Gabriella Leone
We live in a society that is saturated by a sex obsessed media. Advertisements use sex to sell their products, risqué scandals always make the news, and it’s hard to watch T.V without seeing at least one type of physical scene. Sometimes it may feel like everyone is having sex, that you can’t be in love without sex and that you are out of the loop. However, don’t lose faith because despite what you see there are plenty of people who are celibate, even celebrities.
Taylor Swift, 19 year old American pop-country music hit sensation finds inspiration for her music from her past relationships. If you listen to her tracks you can tell she’s singing from past experiences, but guess what, Taylor Swift is celibate. In Swifts new song Fifteen, she encourages girls to put themselves first, tread the water carefully in relationships and most importantly to Swift, to follow your dreams. Swift is successful, beautiful, kind, and she has been in a few relationships all where she didn’t engage in sexual activity.
Jordan Sparks is another successful and talented singer who is not only celibate but an avid speaker of celibacy. She recently stated in an interview that she would wait until marriage for sex. Sparks wears a purity ring that her parents gave her when she was a teenager and she says that it’s her choice to remain celibate, it makes perfect sense to her.
Another group of people that wear purity rings are the Jonas Brothers, three young, very famous pop stars. Kevin, Joe and Nick Jonas are avid speakers of their celibacy; they aren’t ashamed of their faith and what they are doing. They all wear their rings as a promise to God and a promise to themselves. Miley Cyrus also wears a purity ring and is keeping it on until she is married. She has been quoted saying that she is a Christian, was raised by a Christian family and will abide by the Christian upbringing.
Two adult celebrities who were virgins till they were married were pop singer Jessica Simpson and Victoria Secret model Adriana Lima. Simpson and Lima waited until they found the right people to share themselves with. Lima, who is now pregnant with her first child, helped inspire many women to stay celibate. Lima believed if a man didn’t respect her choice to stay celibate than he didn’t respect her and didn’t deserve to be with her.
So if it’s your choice to stay celibate and you feel like there is pressure from the world to change your ways, don’t. Just think about these celebrities who are in the line of fire by the media every single day. They have all been made fun of, questioned and doubted but they stayed true to themselves and their faith.
Remember, you can be in love without making love. You can have a relationship with another person without having sex and it will be just as fulfilling. Relationships where there isn’t sex involved make it possible for a deeper spiritual emotional connection, which is more important than a physical connection.
If all else fails and you feel like you can’t even turn to your famous celebs to stay strong, turn to God. When life gets hard and when your celibacy is questioned or threatened God will be there if you believe in him. He is always there for you and if you focus your energy and attention on him through prayer he will give you the strength you need to get by each day.